Sunday, 10 February 2013

Los Angeles police reopen case that led to fugitive ex-cop's firing

By Michael Martinez and Paul Vercammen,

San Bernardino County Sheriff SWAT team members return to the command post at Bear Mountain in Big Bear Lake, California, on Friday, February 8, after heavy snow hindered the manhunt for ex-LAPD cop Christopher Jordan Dorner. Dorner is the subject of a massive manhunt and is accused of killing one police officer and wounding two others, as well as killing the daughter of his police union representative and her fiance on Sunday. San Bernardino County Sheriff SWAT team members return to the command post at Bear Mountain in Big Bear Lake, California, on Friday, February 8, after heavy snow hindered the manhunt for ex-LAPD cop Christopher Jordan Dorner. Dorner is the subject of a massive manhunt and is accused of killing one police officer and wounding two others, as well as killing the daughter of his police union representative and her fiance on Sunday.
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STORY HIGHLIGHTS
  • The Los Angeles police chief says he ordered the review to reassure the public
  • "It's just a matter of time," says an assistant police chief about catching Christopher Dorner
  • Dorner is sought in three California killings
  • Authorities are searching for him in the San Bernardino Mountains
Big Bear Lake, California (CNN) -- Los Angeles police said Saturday that they would reopen an investigation into the firing of Christopher Jordan Dorner, a former cop accused of killing three people as part of a revenge plot targeting law enforcement officers.
Dorner wrote a manifesto declaring war on police in retaliation for being fired from his job as an LAPD officer and losing an appeal to be reinstated. He promised to bring "unconventional and asymmetrical warfare" to officers and their families, calling it the "last resort" to clear his name and strike back at a department that he says mistreated him.
"I do this not to appease a murderer. I do it to reassure the public that their police department is transparent and fair in all the things we do," Los Angeles Police Chief Charlie Beck said in a statement.
He said police would also look into any allegations made in the manifesto.
Beck addressed what he described as the "ghosts of the LAPD's past," and said that one of his biggest worries was that those ghosts would be "resurrected by Dorner's allegations of racism."
"As hard as it has been to change the culture of the Los Angeles Police Department, it has been even more difficult to win and maintain the support of the public. As much as I value our successes in reducing crime, I value even more our gains in public confidence," he said.
The development came as police continued their search for Dorner, 33, in snowbound mountains. Bundled up in winter gear, teams returned to the pine forests and trails surrounding Big Bear Lake in the San Bernardino Mountains.
As the dragnet entered its third day, questions continued Saturday about whether Dorner was still in the area, but police in California, Nevada and Arizona remained on alert.
Scouring the terrain by land and air, police were using helicopters, snowcats and armored personnel carriers with snow chains. The search resumed after overnight temperatures dipped into the teens.
Officers trudged through knee-high snow with rifles at the ready. Patrols again visited homes Saturday in Big Bear Lake, knocking on doors and peeking into windows. They had checked on the community's 400 homes Thursday.
"I don't think he is up here, to be quite honest with you, in this quite brutal weather," resident Justin Owen said. He was shoveling snow out of his driveway when a police team asked him if he had seen suspicious activity.
No, he told them.
Unlike his son, father Ed Owen believed Dorner could be hiding in any of the houses that serve as second residences in the mountains and are often vacant, frequently the case where families have owned the property for decades and lose interest in it, he said.
"I would guess the occupancy rate on my block is just 10%," Ed Owen told CNN. "If you really wanted to scout things out, you probably could find a home that is never occupied and hide in there."
Not far from the manhunt, skiers and snowboarders enjoyed an ideal day for winter recreation in the resort community.
"The possibility exists that he is here, somewhere in the forest, so we're going to keep looking ... until we determine that he's not here," said Cindy Bachman, a spokeswoman for the San Bernardino County Sheriff's Department.
Calamitous dragnet
The manhunt in Southern California hasn't been without calamity.
Los Angeles police mistakenly shot and wounded two persons Thursday in Torrance as they drove a blue pickup truck resembling Dorner's vehicle. Torrance police also fired upon another blue pickup the same day, but no one was injured in that incident, a law enforcement source said.
The Los Angeles officers involved in the wounding of innocent civilians were put on paid administrative leave, police spokeswoman Rosario Herrera said Saturday. A day earlier, the LAPD had said the officers weren't put on such leave.
Unconfirmed sightings of the 270-pound, 6-foot Dorner have been reported as far away as Las Vegas and the California-Mexico border, according to reports.
LAPD spokesman Andrew Smith urged Dorner to turn himself in.
"That would be the best resolution for this whole thing right now," he said. "No one else has to be shot. No one else has to be injured. No one else has to die. He can turn himself in anywhere, and he'll be taken into custody, and he'll be able to get his side of the story out."
Dorner, who also served in the Navy, is suspected of killing two people in Irvine, California, on Sunday and shooting Thursday at three Los Angeles-area police officers, one of whom later died.
One of the victims of the Irvine killings, Monica Quan, was the daughter of the retired police officer who represented Dorner in his efforts to get his job back, police said.
According to a criminal complaint, someone claiming to be Dorner called the retired officer after the killing, telling him he "should have done a better job of protecting his daughter."
The call was traced to Vancouver, Washington, but the complaint went on state that it was unlikely Dorner was in Washington at the time of the call.
Los Angeles Mayor Antonio Villaraigosa described Dorner as "a very sick individuaI."
"There is absolutely nothing that was done to this individual that would rationalize in any way the murder of three innocent people," Villaraigosa told CNN on Saturday. "The notion that somehow this deranged individual be given any credence boggles my mind."
For now, the focus of the manhunt remains on Big Bear and the surrounding mountains, where Dorner's burned-out pickup was found Thursday.
The truck had a broken axle, which would have prevented the truck from moving, and footprints appear to show Dorner doubled back into the community, according to a source with knowledge of the investigation.
It was unclear where Dorner may have gone from there or by what means, the source said.
Armed and dangerous
Guns found in the truck also were burned, but authorities believe Dorner may have as many as 30 weapons with him, said the source, who spoke on condition of anonymity. The source was not authorized to release details to the media.
Dorner, who retired from the Navy Reserve on February 1 as a lieutenant, was trained in counterinsurgency and intelligence, the source said.
It is also believed that he received flight training during his time in the Navy. Though the exact nature of his flying skills are not known, the Transportation Security Administration issued an advisory.
"While there is no specific information at this time that Dorner is considering using general aviation, TSA requests that operators use an increased level of awareness concerning any suspicious activity during the coming days," it said.
Meanwhile, Bob Dow, supervisor at the airport at Big Bear Lake, dismissed the possibility that Dorner left that airport on a plane, saying the airport monitors all planes coming in and flying out.
Military bases on alert
Navy installations throughout California and Nevada were on heightened alert, a U.S. military official told CNN.
"Security personnel are on the lookout," said the official, who spoke on condition of anonymity. The measure was ordered late Thursday by Rear Adm. Dixon Smith, commander of the Navy's southwest region.
The official, who was not authorized to release details to the media, declined to discuss security procedures, but said the move was made after it became clear that Dorner gained access this week to the Naval Base at Point Loma and stayed in a motel there.
Two sailors reported Dorner approached them Wednesday and spoke with them for about 10 minutes at a San Diego coastal riverine unit -- a quick, small boat fighting team -- where Dorner served in 2006. As a Navy reservist, Dorner held security jobs at that unit.
The Navy is not certain whether Dorner still possesses any military identification he might try to use to enter a facility.
Investigators said they believe Dorner tried to steal a boat from someone in San Diego, according to the LAPD. Dorner "was not successful, and he fled the location," LAPD Chief Charlie Beck said.
A wallet containing Dorner's identification and an LAPD detective's badge was found near the San Diego airport, police said.
Authorities speculate that Dorner, who is familiar with LAPD policies and procedures, may be trying to lead authorities astray by planting clues.
"He understands the way police departments work: the policies, the procedures, the response times,'" said Brandon Webb, a security expert and editor of SOFREP.com, the Special Operations Forces Situation Report.
CNN

3 lessons I learnt from blindness- Cobhams Asuquo’s inspiring speech at TEDxEuston

by Rachel Ogbu
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Musician, producer, and songwriter Cobhams Asuquo, 32, gave an outstanding speech at the TEDxEuston 2012.
Reading Braille, it’s the speech good people are made of. In his gripping speech, Asuquo says; “One of the things that has fueled my ability to dream has been the gift of blindness.”
“I am a dreamer, I don’t mean that in a literal sence but that’s very nice because that’s when I get to drive and play golf,” he begins and then goes on to speak on the three lessons he learnt from blindness:
1. Do not excuse failure for any reason, on any account.
2. I decided to just trust. Sometimes even when I have no reason to. Trust has no expiration date, blindness hs taught be to trust, to hope.
3. Sight sometimes is a distraction. Sight is a precious gift but on your way to your destination what you see can also be a big distraction from your goal. You have to be blind in order to be focused.
 ”I have drawn some key strength in my life journey. We treat the African continent like a disabled child and excuse failure.”
YNaija.com

“When I first met my wife, she was underage, too little”- Julius Agwu and wife speak on married life

by Rachel Ogbu
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With the Valentine just around the corner, ace comedian Julius Agwu and his wife of five years, Ibiere recently granted an interview to talk about their relationship.
One could imaging being married to someone like Agwu would mean cracked ribs for breakfast with laughter in the air 24/7 but Ibiere said on the contrary; “He could be very annoying; forget all these things he does on stage. He gets me annoyed.”
Agwu not one to take a bullet down defended himself quickly. “She is an introvert; most times I am the one who would ask, ‘are you okay? What is the problem?’ She would just keep to herself and that really gets at me. Sometimes, I would expect her to ask me how I am faring but she never does. Though I like the fact that she really doesn’t have friends; but I still don’t like the way she treats me. Before we got married she would ask me, ‘baby, have you eaten? Try and eat something please.’ Since we got married, she has not bothered to ask me if I have eaten! These days, I have to beg her to ask me if I have eaten,” he said.
But all is in good fun. They seem to be the most comfortable couple around with a gorgeous daughter, Zahra. Agwu said as a couple, they consciously decided not to engage in irrelevant arguments. In agreement, Ibiere replied: “Before the situation gets to the stage of quarrelling, we speak about our feelings instead of bottling up issues.”
Read more excerpts from the interview:
You have been married for five years. How has the journey been like?
Ibiere: It has been good.
How did you meet?
Julius: We met at a wedding in year 2000; she was part of the bridal train. Incidentally, Okey Bakassi and I were the comperes at the event, and both of us competed on who would be the first to ask her out. I made the first move but she was too little, she was underage.
Ibiere (cuts in): I was 18, I was not underage.
Julius Agwu: Well, she was 18 but she was a baby. I just saw one beautiful girl. I was smarter, I was faster, and I was able to get her contact. We became friends but she started putting up an attitude whenever I tried reaching her. At a point, I called her bluff and wondered who she was. In fact, I forgot about her.
Ibiere, why did you put up an attitude?
Ibiere: I was not putting up any attitude, I just concentrated on my books, then, I was in my first year in the university.
Was your attitude as a result of his profession as a comedian?
Ibiere: The fact that he is a comedian had nothing to do with my decision, I wasn’t just interested.
So, at what point did you change your mind and show interest?
Ibiere: After the first meeting, we lost contact for two years; we met later and became friends.
When you met her later, what was your reaction?
Julius: I met her two years later in 2002 when I lost my father. I was very angry because at that period, my career was just kicking off. The day he died, I went to Chioba, my village to settle his hospital bills. On getting there, I saw a crowd of mourners at our gate. I was so angry that I made up my mind to drink myself to stupor. I went to a town in Port Harcourt to have drinks with some friends who had come to commiserate with me. When I left our table for the toilet, I ran into her on the corridor. She informed me that it was the eve of her birthday and she had come out for some drinks with her friends. I informed her that I had just lost my father. We moved from there to another club and since it was her birthday, I decided to buy drinks for everybody. After all the money I spent at the club, they wanted to leave. So, I asked her, “are you leaving without even giving me a kiss?” She said, for what?’ I realised she was still putting up an attitude and that got me very angry. This was in addition to the fact that I was tipsy. Again, I called her bluff. During my father’s burial, she came, but she was still a baby because she still had her curfew and she was not supposed to stay out late. But I was impressed that she made out time to visit me.
At what point did it occur to you that he might propose?
Ibiere: At no point, when he proposed, I was not actually thinking about marriage because I had just graduated and was not even thinking of marriage.
But Julius, do you agree that part of this attraction could be the fact that she was not really interested?
Julius: One thing about me is that I like to have my way. I have always had my way and she posed a challenge for me through her lack of interest. But I did not just see a beautiful girl, I saw someone who was intelligent and stern. She was principled from the outset. She is actually my greatest critic.
Since he is a jovial person and makes money out of telling jokes, are there times you expect him to be serious about some issues and he is not?
Ibiere: He knows when I want him to be serious and he sees it on my face. Most times, I don’t even need to say anything, I just look at him and he knows I mean business. Also, I know when he is serious. When I see his facial expression I know.
His job entails a lot of publicity. How do you deal with that especially being with him almost at every event?
Ibiere: I am always with him but I am not in the public glare because I don’t bring myself out there to be seen. I am always in the background.
Do you laugh at his jokes when he is on stage?
Ibiere: If it is funny I laugh, if it is not I don’t laugh.
What does he do to annoy you?
(At this point, the couple stared hard at each other).
Ibiere: What does he do to annoy me? Hmm… I don’t want to go there.
Julius: Go there now.
How do you settle fights?
Ibiere: We fight until one of us is tired; usually he is the one who gets tired first.
Is it true?
Julius: It is true. The kind of job I do is to give laughter and joy. So, each time we quarrel, I don’t feel comfortable, I can’t claim to give people joy when I am not happy. I thought I was an expert at keeping malice. until I met her.
Ibiere: You are worse than me. I might not be happy but if I am angry, I can still talk to him but if he is angry, he can go on and would not even say a word to anybody.
Has your bond grown stronger?
Both: Yes it has. Funny enough it has.
YNaija.com

Dick Cheney Criticizes Obama National Security Appointees In Speech

By BOB MOEN
CHEYENNE, Wyo. -- Former Vice President Dick Cheney said Saturday night that President Barack Obama has jeopardized U.S. national security by nominating substandard candidates for key cabinet posts and by degrading the U.S. military.
"The performance now of Barack Obama as he staffs up the national security team for the second term is dismal," Cheney said in comments to about 300 members of the Wyoming Republican Party.
Cheney, a Wyoming native, said it was vital to the nation's national security that "good folks" hold the positions of secretary of state, CIA director and secretary of defense.
"Frankly, what he has appointed are second-rate people," he said.
John Kerry, the 2004 Democratic presidential nominee, has been confirmed as secretary of state. CIA designate John Brennan and defense secretary nominee Chuck Hagel are still awaiting U.S. Senate confirmation.
Wyoming's two U.S. senators, Mike Enzi and John Barrasso, voted for Kerry's confirmation. Both Enzi and Barrasso gave introductory speeches for Cheney Saturday night.
Cheney said Hagel, a former Nebraska U.S. senator, was chosen because Obama "wants to have a Republican that he can use to take the heat for what he plans to do to the Department of Defense."
He said Obama's plans are to allow severe cuts in U.S. defense spending, which would limit the capability of the U.S. military to respond to future foreign crises well after Obama has left office.
"He is today ... establishing what limitations will be on future presidents," Cheney said.
Cheney noted that the security situation in the Middle East and North Africa has worsened under Obama's watch with Iran actively pursuing nuclear weapons and with turmoil in Egypt, Syria, Mali and elsewhere.
"That part of the world is as dangerous now as it has ever been," he said.
The Obama administration's response has been to pull back U.S. military presence and influence, resulting in rising mistrust of the U.S. from allies such as Israel and Saudi Arabia, he said.
Despite Obama's re-election victory, Cheney said he hopes Republicans can revive their political fortunes by holding to conservative principles.
"I believe we're all going to pull together, work hard, dig in and do what needs to be done," he said.
Cheney, who received a heart transplant about a year ago, appeared fit, although his voice turned hoarse on occasion during his half-hour speech.
HuffingtonPost

Plateau Govt Dismisses Fake “Commissioner”


The Plateau Government has dismissed the officer, who posed as a fake commissioner and drew salaries and entitlements for that office.
Mr Yakubu Jang, the Special Adviser to Plateau Governor on Special Duties, confirmed this to the News Agency of Nigeria in Jos on Sunday.
“We discovered the officer that claimed to be a commissioner and dismissed him from service after a thorough investigation.
“We took him through the civil service disciplinary procedure and showed him the way out,’’ said Jang, who is also the Chairman, Biometric Data Capture Committee.
He said that the ministry of justice had been directed to prosecute the dismissed officer.
The special adviser described the situation as “very scary’’, and expressed surprise that an officer could engage in that high level of criminality.
Jang said that other officers involved in that incident were still being investigated to ascertain the levels of their complicity and promised that none of them would escape justice if found culpable.
“Government is still doing its work to ensure that all concerned are brought to book to serve as a deterrent to others,’’ he said.
He said that the committee had attained a high level of success in its efforts at cleansing the system and revealed that some of the discoveries were “simply disgusting’’.
He advised civil servants in the state to place the public interest above their selfish desires, pointing out this was the only way to promote growth, stability and progress.
Naij

“Ronaldo is better than Zidane” – Sir Alex Ferguson

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As Sir Alex Ferguson prepares to welcome back Cristiano Ronaldo to Old Trafford, he has hailed the Portuguese players as one of the best players to have worn the Real Madrid colours.
Ronaldo completed a world record £80m move from Manchester United in 2009 and has gone on to break records at the Santiago Bernabeu. Ferguson is hoping they can keep him quiet when both sides clash in the Round of 16 of the Champions League.
“Florentino Perez had all the Galacticos at Real Madrid when he was president first time around,” Ferguson told reporters. “He had [Luis] Figo, Zidane, Roberto Carlos, Raul in that spell. But I don’t think any of those players were as good as Ronaldo.
“Zidane was a fantastic player, Figo was a fantastic player. But not as good as Ronaldo. So I think Mourinho’s team are still living up to the reputation that Real Madrid can produce the top players.
“Ronaldo has beaten all the records there. He’s beaten [Alfred] Di Stefano, [Ferenc] Puskas, Hugo Sanchez. So obviously he is indelibly printed in their history now.
“You have to say he is pivotal to all they do – 179 goals in 178 matches tells its own story. I think I might have to think about blackmail. I might have to tell a true story about him!
“He’s a fantastic player. I knew he would improve tremendously, he was still young when he left us.”
Ferguson also revealed that one of the secrets of Ronaldo’s success, is dedication to training, apart from his undoubted quality and suggested they should have made Madrid pay more for his services.
“He would practise half-an-hour after every training session,” he added. “It was a simple route to becoming a complete footballer. The more you practise the better you become, and it became a habit for him.
“I told them upstairs [the Glazers]. We should have asked for €175m; we probably would have got it.”
The Scot also ruled out the chances of re-signing the 28-year-old, stating that: “You are talking hundreds of millions; I don’t see it.”
DailyPost

For real: 5 reasons why women cheat

by Robert Weiss
Female relationship and sex addicts use a constant stream of sexual activity to fulfill unmet emotional needs, and also to avoid being needful, genuine, and intimate with someone who could hurt them (as happened when they were when young).
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It Takes Two to Tango
Most studies suggest that somewhere from 10 to 20 percent of men and women in marriages and other committed monogamous relationships will cheat on their partner at some point.
While cultural stereotypes inform us that it’s mostly men who cheat on their wives or girlfriends and not the other way around, clinical research concretely details that nearly as many women cheat as men.
Why does this stereotype, of men being “The Cheaters,” prevail?
Why Are Men More Readily Perceived as “Cheaters” Than Women?
  1. Western cultural stereotypes are more forgiving of a man having recreational sex (stud) versus how we tend to view a woman doing the same (slut).
  2. The generally more fragile male ego leads men’s thoughts away from even considering they may be cheated upon.
  3. Men engage in more sexual offenses than do women, perhaps giving the suggestion that men in general are more likely to sexually act out.
  4. Women are better at cheating and hiding it then men.
  5. Men are more likely to get caught when cheating (see #4 above).
And the Survey Says…
Cultural assumptions aside, the actual reasons women most commonly give for relationship infidelity are often quite different than those reported by men who are doing the same thing. And perhaps it is no surprise that a woman’s motivation to cheat typically parallels our psychological and physiological understanding of what stimulates female vs. male emotional and physical arousal/sexuality. For example, adult men tend to be more comfortable engaging in a purely sexual experience devoid of emotional attachment — such as viewing pornography, going to a strip club, or hiring a prostitute — than most women. Women tend to be more aroused by sexuality that includes or implies some form of emotional connection as with romance-oriented erotica such as Fifty Shades of Grey and Twilight, both of which have primarily female audiences.
In one survey, Undercover Lovers, a UK-based extramarital dating site, surveyed 4,000 of its members, approximately 2,000 men and 2,000 women, about their cheating habits. Among female cheaters, 57% said they felt love for the man with whom they were having an affair. But in fairly stark contrast only 27% of the men surveyed said they loved their mistress. As indicated by this informal survey, women who cheat are much more likely to want and/or need an intimate emotional bond with their affair partner — even simply to believe they have such a bond, though the man may feel differently.
What Is Cheating Today?
In many ways, relationship infidelity has become pervasive in modern society, as evidenced to some extent by the large number of infidelity websites and “friend finder” smartphone apps such as Blendr, Undercover Lovers, and most prominently Ashley Madison. No muss, no fuss, just the sex thank you very much. At last look, Ashley Madison had approximately 16 million members, making it one of the world’s most popular and financially profitable websites/smartphone apps.
Ashley Madison and similar companies have successfully utilized modern technology to monetize infidelity.
Why Women Cheat:
Women who step out on a husband or significant other — male or female — do so for any number of reasons, the five most common of which are listed below:
  1. She feels underappreciated, neglected, or ignored. A woman who feels more like a housekeeper, financial provider, or nanny than a wife or girlfriend is more vulnerable to finding an external situation that brings attention and appreciation for who she is rather than the functions she performs.
  2. She craves intimacy. More so than men, women feel valued and connected to their relationship partner through non-sexual emotional interaction such as touching, kissing, cuddling, gift-giving, being remembered, and most of all meaningful communication. Women who aren’t getting their intimacy needs met by a primary partner may look elsewhere, trying to meet those needs through sexual/romantic relationships. Some of these same women may also engage in alcohol/drug abuse, compulsive spending, binge or consistent overeating, etc., to compensate for the emptiness they feel.
  3. She is bored and/or lonely. Women who find themselves alone at home for long periods of time, perhaps when caring for young children or even after children are grown and gone, can feel that their lives lack meaning, and they may use casual sex or deeper romantic affairs to fill the void. Women who have spouses or partners who are absent for long periods of time related to work (military service, for example) may also turn to sex and affairs to fill what feels like an untenable emptiness.
  4. She never feels fully loved and appreciated. Some women have unrealistic expectations about what a long-term spouse or partner should offer them emotionally and in other ways. Those who are more narcissistic and emotionally immature may expect a significant other to meet their every single need, and also to be a mind-reader in terms of knowing what those needs are. When their human and imperfect partner inevitably fails them, they feel justified in seeking attention elsewhere.
  5. She has an intimacy disorder. Early childhood trauma and/or sexual abuse often lead women (and men) in adult life to problems with addictive sex and/or serial cheating. Such women repeatedly seek emotional intensity rather than relational intimacy. Women with unresolved childhood trauma as well as those with emotional instability — women who carry an uneven and disjointed sense of self — can seek consistency and feelings of importance through intensity-based romantic and/or sexual activity.
Feeling “in control” over someone desiring or wanting them sexually/romantically helps them to approximate feelings of worth, importance, belonging, and emotional safety. Female relationship and sex addicts use a constant stream of sexual activity to fulfill unmet emotional needs, and also to avoid being needful, genuine, and intimate with someone who could hurt them (as happened when they were when young).
In truth, some women cheat because they receive little sex or physical intimacy from their spouse. After all, healthy adult women enjoy the physical act of sex as much as men do. They’re not martyrs, and a sexless relationship may not be acceptable for some, even if the lack of sexual interaction is due to the male partner’s medical or related issues. For these women, going outside the relationship for sex may be a logical, even healthy answer. That said, women also enjoy the feelings of being wanted, needed, and desired that partner-sexuality can evoke, and a woman is more likely to break her vow of monogamy because she’s seeking this type of emotional connection than for purely sexual reasons.
Sadly, some women may not realize how profoundly their secretive sexual or romantic behavior can affect the long-term emotional life of a trusting male spouse or partner. Infidelity hurts a betrayed man by damaging his sense of home, safety, and self. The keeping of secrets, especially sexual secrets, ruins relationship trust, and betrayal causes pain regardless of gender and regardless of the woman’s reasons for breaking her vow or commitment. If a couple chooses to address the situation together, couples counseling can turn a relationship crisis into a growth opportunity. If the woman in question turns out to have a problem with sex or love addiction, she will require specialized treatment to address both past trauma and her adult sexual behavior patterns. Unfortunately, even with experienced therapists on board working with people committed to healing, some couples (post-betrayal) are unable to regain the necessary sense of trust and emotional safety required to continue together. For these couples, solid, neutral relationship therapy can help ease the pain of a long overdue separation.
YNaija.com